It's a kind of cosmic irony that one of the greatest systemic problems facing humanity today is our incapacity to take accountability for our own actions. Many of us go great lengths to salvage and protect our pride, often to self- and community-destructive ends. Even more ironic is the availability of the solution, the degree of ease in simply enacting accountability; to be honest.
This dishonesty contributes to a range of social problems and inequalities ranging from war to poverty. It has enormous ramifications for conflict resolution, everywhere from intimate relationship, to international, violence.
As a co-facilitator at Changing Ways, I've witnessed how a lack of accountability can destroy relationships. As a student of history,
I've witnessed how dishonesty has tarnished, and even lead to the conquering of, nations.
Accountability affects every context of our lives, and yet it's barely discussed in common conversation. In fact, discussions of accountability are most often prompted by some sort of accusation of dishonesty; rarely is it discussed as a virtue, ideal, or something intrinsically worth enacting.
So just what is accountability?
Well,
Wikipedia currently provides several context specific definitions supplying little assistance in this instance. But the webpage demonstrates that definitions of concepts can have as many nuances as there are contexts in which these concepts can be identified.
I've been confronted with defining accountability several times, especially at
Changing Ways where men were "coerced" into writing accountability statements: to take accountability for the behavior that landed them at the institution. As such, I've encountered a plethora of definitions from which to draw my own.
In this instance, I'm referring to accountability in its primary essence, its basic values: honesty, integrity (consistency), and reason. I developed my definition logically, as it consists of honesty, integrity, and reason, because if just one of those values is absent, one cannot be genuinely accountable.
Without a complete commitment to honesty, dishonest behavior could be justified by reason and enacted with integrity. I.e. left to reason and integrity, one could justify
disingenuity. I've encountered many situations where people rationalize disingenuous actions in which one behaves as though they know less than they actually do. To spare you the list of reasons as to why such justifications can fail, I'll leave you with this: how would you feel if you were the one who suffered as a result of that disingenuous behavior? And what's the point if you'd find out eventually, regardless?
Along with honesty, without a complete commitment to integrity, one can fail to be genuinely accountable. I placed "consistency" in parentheses to highlight this element of integrity, but I didn't just write 'consistency' because that term alone fails to capture the range of areas within which one must be consistent to maintain their
integrity. Integrity is more than just consistent action; it's an consistent orientation to life: consistent values, beliefs, reasoning, honesty, self-criticism, etc. Without integrity, one could pick and choose rationally and honestly where and when to be consistent instrumentally. Integrity's not as vital as honesty and reason, but it's an essential element of persistent, life-long, genuine accountability.
Along with honesty and integrity, without a complete commitment to reason, one cannot achieve the ideal accountability so described. I know it may sound abstract or obtuse to include reason in my definition and criteria, but bear with me. Imagine an irrational individual claiming to be accountable based on their honesty and integrity. In my own mind I'd picture a domestic abuser who consistently and honestly denies their culpability in an instance of domestic abuse. By the exclusive standards of honesty and integrity, this man or woman could be described as accountable. However, if that same situation is subjected to rational criticism and reason, that individual may be found to be otherwise. For example, in the case suggested, the indicted might have done something they don't believe, or understand, to have affected something else. Reason is the acknowledgement and understanding of relationships like cause and effect, consequences for behaviors, and emotional literacy. Even if one maintains the greatest honesty and integrity, if they do not acknowledge or even deny rational deductive and inductive logic, the feelings of other individuals, or the full consequences of their actions, they cannot be genuinely accountable.
In sum, my perspective of accountability consists of honesty, integrity, and reason.
That said, why do we struggle to take accountability?
No one likes to be wrong. In fact, as I've
cited previously, in Eckhart Tolle's words, "to be wrong is to die." Following suite, everyone likes to be right. No one ever has trouble taking accountability for good, right, actions, unless they're
prepared to confront their own pride.
As such, to take accountability is to confront our own
hedonist consciousnesses: to confront our desires for pleasure and abhorrence of pain. It's hard: very hard. Almost, and arguably actually currently, impossible for some, depending on the context. As it was at Changing Ways in the men's groups I helped facilitate and participated with, accountability is a process: a gradual process. And the pivotal vehicle of this process is honesty.
I'm awed and inspired by the solution. The simple, yet revolutionary, power of honesty. Honesty, in the sense that I use it, is simply an absolute openness, to yourself, everyone, and everything.
Meanwhile, dishonesty is dissonance. It's a closing or alienation of ideas and people. Dishonesty is a form of
conservatism; it's an act of conserving one's pride, feelings, beliefs, understandings, or principles.
As such, honesty is absolutely liberal, it's a kind of liberation: an exercise of personal liberty. To be honest is to liberate oneself from pride, doctrines, and prejudices.
Many of us are
slaves to our selves: to our own pride and hedonist values. We exercise dishonesty, and fear accountability, because we fear the wrath of our masters: the realization and acknowledgment of who we truly are, and what we've actually done.
Allow me to consolidate this argument with an example. Why do we desire "privacy"?
Why?
What's the reasoning? What's at the root of that desire?
It's because we have something worth hiding. Whether it be worth hiding because of the consequences of its discovery, or to preserve its worth: this is the nature of any secret. Simply put, we desire privacy because we feel we can't or shouldn't be honest; there's forces and structures preventing us from being ourselves, honestly and accountably. We seek out and go great lengths to maintain privacy, because our society has become such that to be completely and absolutely honest about ourselves: our wants, needs, beliefs, and values, often has negative consequences.
My perspective? Be honest anyway. Be accountable, even if it hurts.
Because most often the consequences of dishonesty and running from the truth far outweigh the costs of being honest and accountable.
"Be the change you wish to see in the world." You want honesty? Accountability? Transparency? Be honest, accountable, and transparent.
EDIT: I ironically had to delete a link linked to the words "be accountable, even if it hurts." That link connected to a post that I had to pull from this blog given my new status as a public servant. That post may be reposted again, but given its controversy and probable incomprehensibility to most people, it will require reworking, or at least a lot more explanation on my part. So in eating my own words, be accountable, even if it hurts, only when such accountability will allow you to continue to realize your self and your world.